God Hates Divorce, But He Loves the Divorce

One day, I was scrolling on the internet and saw a post about a couple planning to get a divorce. They had been married for many decades. I felt sad because I know how hard divorce can be on the heart and the soul. I commented that “God hates divorce.”

As a Christian woman, I believe what the Bible says about divorce. Malachi 2:16 says, “For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel. This verse does not mean that God hates people who divorce. He hates the pain, the separation, and the damage divorce can do to a family and to your soul.

I also offered advice. I said that maybe this couple could try counseling or talking to each other before making such a big decision. I thought about their age—they were in their late 60s and 70s. At this stage of life, having someone to share life with is very important. I felt that they needed each other, not only for love but for support during their golden years.

After I made my comment, I was surprised. Some people responded harshly. They said that it was better for the couple to divorce, and they did not agree with me. Some even criticized me online. It was hard, but I remembered why I said it.

God’s heart is not against people. He forgives those who have been through divorce. If someone repents and turns back to Him, God will forgive their sins. Matthew 19:8-9 says, “Moses allowed you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” This shows that God wants marriage to last and for people to work through their problems.

Divorce leaves emotional scars. It can hurt your soul and your spirit. It can also affect your family and even your children. That is why God hates divorce—not the people, but the destruction it can bring.

I learned a lesson that day. Speaking the truth with love is not always popular, but it is still important. I prayed for the couple. I prayed that they would find healing, forgiveness, and guidance. I prayed that they would seek God and understand His plan for marriage.

Divorce may seem like an easy solution when problems feel too big, but God’s love and forgiveness are greater. He wants us to protect our hearts, our marriages, and our families. If you or someone you know is thinking about divorce, remember that God forgives, He restores, and He heals. But He also calls us to try to work things out, to love, and to remain faithful whenever possible.